Monday, December 21, 2015

CHRISTMAS THROUGH ANOTHER'S EYES

I have not been in a large mall or a major retail store in over 5 months - have I missed it?  Not in the slightest - especially not at this time of year.  I have no idea what the hot toy of the year is, I have no idea what they are pushing for Christmas gifts for men - for women...

Sigh.... how refreshing to not have to be bothered with that aspect of Christmas.  I never was a mall crazed woman, or a shopaholic, I have always been the person that had a list, walked in the store, bought what I needed and walked out.  I don't do browsing ( unless it is a craft or yarn shop, and maybe an antique store or a thrift shop).  Major retailers would go broke if they depended upon people like me to make their yearly sales soar at Christmas time.

Maybe she's cheap, you say!  I don't believe so - I have never had a lot of extra money to throw away on things that were not needed and in the same sense I have never considered that one had to spend hundreds of dollars on a gift to make someone happy.

That is why yesterday afternoon when I was killing time on Face Book, frowning at all the Christmas nonsense that takes over Face Book at this time of year - I was so happy to find this post.

This is the best thing I have read this Christmas Season.  This was written by someone other by myself - and I re-post it here with the utmost respect and appreciation for the writer's story.  The message here is just to powerful not to share it with my readers.  Thank You Nancy W. Gavin for your beautiful story.



Christmas Story:
For the Man Who Hated Christmas
By Nancy W. Gavin
It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past ten years.
It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas. Oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it—overspending and the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma—the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of anything else.
Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.
Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was on the wrestling team at the school he attended. Shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes.
As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler's ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford.
Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said. "They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them.” Mike loved kids—all kids. He so enjoyed coaching little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came.
That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes, and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas Eve, I placed a small, white envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done, and that this was his gift from me.
Mike's smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year. And that same bright smile lit up succeeding years. For each Christmas, I followed the tradition—one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.
The white envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning, and our children—ignoring their new toys—would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents. As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the small, white envelope never lost its allure.
The story doesn't end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree. And the next morning, I found it was magically joined by three more. Unbeknownst to the others, each of our three children had for the first time placed a white envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing to take down that special envelope.
Mike's spirit, like the Christmas spirit will always be with us.

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